(Please see the previous post for the first part of this story)
Jerry wrote back saying essentially that his motive for trying to help his boss was because of Jerrys own responsibility to the organization. He talked about nobody else daring to tell the boss about the problem. Jerry also talked about putting himself in jeopardy if he brought the matter up.
Here’s my next e-mail.
Dear Jerry,
Your problem is common and usually ignored; sharing it will be helpful to others.
That is an excellent reason for at least attempting to have the conversation.
Asking him if he is aware of the problem and if he is, offering him your suggested solutions, might work. Caution: do NOT proceed without his express permission.
Assume that his intentions were honorable. They probably were. I would also assume that he has a blind spot about what is happening. You are not helping anyone by keeping silent.
My suggestions have helped others achieve positive outcomes. As long as you ask respectful questions instead of scolding you can protect yourself.
You have a real sense of honor and an obligation to the good of the organization. Think through how you will approach him in a way that allows him to maintain his dignity.
Please check out the blog posts for suggestions.
If you think it would help, I am available for telephone consultation @ $75 for thirty minutes payable by credit card. Laurie
I wish I could share Jerrys additional comments.
I am happy to answer your questions, especially if you are willing to allow me to share the conversation with others.
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